Question:
Subject. I am only 24. Ive been dating a person whom I first moved in with.
It seems that she is a bit unexperienced and doesn't turn me on very much.
This is something I can't explain. She is a great person but I just think we
have different preferences when it comes to sex. While this can be a reason
why I have problems with erection, I don't think it's really the
incompatibility. After we split up for a while I've been checking other
girls (also wanted to test myself, see how I'm going to do). A few days ago
I was with a high-sex drive, my style of girl, and probably one of the best
I've ever been with. Same problem. Now I'm sitting here and doing the math
and I can see that there are quite a few women I had this problem with. I
can easily blaim it on alcohol, stress, not being turned on by the girl, or
other things but I dont think theyre the main problem!
Should I be taking Viagra (now I'd be risking this crazy side effect that
theyre talking about in here). Seeing a doctor is an idea but what can they
really do? Anyone has any suggestions? Feel free to share your experiences
and solutions. This is definately becoming alarming for me.
Answer:
Perhaps getting an erection is not just the man's responsibility.
On one occasion, I've also had difficulty getting an erection. This
happened when the lady and I were new to each other. And I was a
little anxious.
I didn't know what to do. But the lady I was with quickly solved my
erection problem.
She told me to put some gel on my fingers and showed me how to
masturbate her pussy and clitoris. Then she laid back and told me to
do it for her.
I went after her pussy. She grabbed my cock and began to masturbate
it. And within a short time I had a big erection going inside her
masturbating hand.
What turned me on was the fact that I could feel her pussy relax under
my hand. Her pussy-lips swelled and pulled back, her clitoris became
full and erect, and her pussy-juices began to flow.
This lady's face became flushed. She tightened her grip on my cock and
moaned a little.
And I had no doubt left in my mind that this lady was absolutely ready
and willing to let me mount her and ride. And that's exactly what I
did to the satisfaction of us both.
A sexually excited woman who is obviously ready to have sex is what the
anxious man needs to get his erection going. And the easiest way to
make your woman like this is to go after her pussy with lots of gel on
your fingers.
The woman's clitoris is equivalent to the man's cock in terms of its
nerve endings and pleasure centers in the brain. And even an anxious,
inhibited woman will quickly relax her pussy for a man who goes after
her pussy and clitoris with a well-lubricated hand.
I think that men who have an erection problem should focus on getting
the lady excited and forget about their own cock. When the lady is
very ready, then even a half-erection is good enough to mount her and
ride.
Many men like to go after the lady's pussy and clitoris with their
tongues and lips. But I find that cunnilingus is an inferior method
for getting my own erection going.
My hand on her pussy is much better at feeling her growing sexual
excitement. With my hand I can tell every minute detail of how her
pussy-lips swell and pull back, how her clitoris grows bigger and
harder, and how her abundant pussy-juices wet my hand. You miss a lot
of this, when you use your tongue and lips.
Sexual excitement of the woman excites the man. And that's one of the
secrets of getting a good erection going.
Think not of what the lady can do for you. Think of what you can do
for the lady. Get her excited and ready. And your erection will come.
